A soft answer turns away wrath

It was a very eventful day. I had a yummy breakfast, and of course my cup of coffee to kick start the day.

Here's how the eventful day started. Joywn and I help Ms. Joelin in the morning to make some calls. We needed to contact all the participants for the Peer Counseling Conference happening next week (10th -11th May 2012). It started off quite well. There was one wrong number as well, but the person was kind enough to politely reply that we have go the wrong number. Oops... haha...

The more interesting part came in the evening. After class, Jess and I continued to make the calls. Fortunately or unfortunately, I called this lecturer from UCSI. Academicians are usually better, more polite, more patient? Not in this case I suppose. Or perhaps, her students were driving her up the wall when I called her? Who knows? But, she screamed into the phone mentioning that she has already filled in the form and why would we need to confirm again?

Thankfully, I had done my internship and most of the time, external parties such as banks, suppliers or debtors may not be as patient as well, though most were actually very cooperative. What I had to do during my internship? One of the many tasks was to confirm the figures and amount with them as well. Why do we need to reconfirm? To ensure that it is free from error, and verify the amount.

Nonetheless, this incident over the phone taught me a few lessons.

1. It is not an must for others to treat you in a nice way. Well, that does not mean that you must treat the other person in the same way as well. Do unto others what you want others to do unto you. I clearly remembered that I ask my mum when I was eight years old 'What if the other person treats you badly? Then I can treat the other person in the same way as well?' Well, it says, 'Do unto others what you want others to do unto you.' It did not say 'Do unto others what others do to you'.

2. Patience is developed, not born. It is very natural to snap back at another person who is impolite despite the fact that you are polite. But, a soft answer turns away wrath. There is no point arguing, it is like adding oil to fire.Often, anger is very disruptive. Being patient does not come naturally, it is a constant self reminder to do so. And, if you do it often enough, it will some what sink into your sub -conscious mind to be more tolerant and careful with the words used when speaking. But, there may be times where the wire may snap as well.

3. I need to examine myself when speaking to others. At the end of the day, think back on the conversation that I had with others, I realized that on some days, certain answers may not be too nice to the receiving party. By reflecting on the day's conversation and encounters, I can learn to master the art of talking to others in a nicer way. It is not being fake or putting on a show, but, it is being more conscious and tactful of people's feeling.

4. Positive remark motivates, negative remark demotivates and sometimes  provokes anger.

5. I learn to compartmentalize my feeling. My feeling of displeasure or exasperation  with another person should not be taken out on an innocent person who is not involved in the matter. Look at the issue at hand, and to the person. If my exasperation is over Issue A, it should only stop there. It should not be brought into my interaction with another person regarding Issue B or C.

6. Looking from the other person's perspective and analyze why some people always make negative remarks or gets angry easily. Here is where Non -Violent communication comes in very handy.

Ultimately, the main lesson is that 'A soft answer turns away wrath'.

Cheers for the day.

I'm enjoying my ice -blended mocha with additional espresso shot now.

Trust?

Trust is defined as a firm belief in the reliability, truth, ability, or strength of someone or something. Firm believe? It is surely easier said than done. And, it is both ways.. One finds it hard to trust another person, others find it hard to trust someone too...

But, why is trust such a difficult thing? Is it human nature to trust? Or to NOT trust?

Trust... what does it mean to you?

Interest

Did a test (Interest score: RIASEC code) R=realistic, I=investigative, A=artistic, S=social, E=enterprising, C=conventional, after which they generate suggested career... guess what, there's no accountant or auditor in the list.. haha.. but at least, there's financial analyst and personal financial advisor.. ohh, the score that was generated was investigative being the highest, followed by artistic and social with equal score..

The suggested career are super interesting.. there's like archeologist, pharmacist, biologist, teacher, counselors, counselling psychologist, market research analyst.... all but, accounting..

There are important lessons that i've learnt studying accounting, like perseverance... met great people whom i would never have met.... but, if such are the career, then why study accounting and finance?

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study first decide later seems like a very practical thing to do right?

there are many routes leading to one destination (career), and knowledge acquired is never wasted... hmm.. standing at a crossroad, if the traffic light is red, well, good, you can stop and think, but, when it turns green, you'll have to move on..

Life goes on..

Just Random

Assignments are due soon.. Law, business strategy and research.. then, the finals... what a life, uni life... EXAMS... are meant to torture students...

Spoke to someone on Monday, had a really good time. It nice to really sit down and talk to someone.. it's much nicer than posting 'what's on your mind' on facebook... gets you to think and listen, and to express your thoughts as well... will be speaking to her again tomorrow... really hope that apart from 'formal' meetings, i would be able to speak to her too...

watched a movie the other day too.. it's entitled 'Little Miss Sunshine', quite a nice movie...

Is being practical more important or going after your dream more important?

Thoughts are really scattered in this post though.. haven't been posting for quite some time... need to warm up my writing muscles...

Hello world

It has been a long time since i last wrote my bolg..

I do not know what to write..

Quest of the Aucas

Quest of the Aucas.. the real life story of 5 missionaries.. It's truly a story about, obedience, love, sacrifice, forgiveness and reconciliation... It is also about faith and courage...


I just watched a forum/ round table discussion on bloomberg a couple of days ago talking about 'fear, anxiety, aggressiveness and PTSD'... it's really interesting and amazing how our brain works...

It made me wonder about the aucas, they used to kill people at their border and even within their family. It's kinda scary actually. For a child to grow up on that kind of environment, fear and in need for security... it is like a situation where you can't even trust your own family members because they might actually kill you. The trauma that a child went through witnessing their family being killed and having to flee for their life, they grew up in fear, the emotional impact... In a way, it's kind of sad that they need to grow up in such conditions, on the other hand, I think that they are rather brave(high uncertainty tolerance) to be able to stay sane in such conditions...

I do not think they are that evil... But, honestly, I would not have the courage to do what the five missionaries did too... One of the scene that caught my attention was when the mother wanted to bury the child together with the father who wanted to jump 'the great boa', the child asked the father whether he really wanted it to be so, the father asked the child to flee and not let the mother find her again... From here, I found that although they often killed each other, the father still loved the child... There was also anger and fear in the mother's heart, perhaps, if her husband does kill himself, she has no one to protect her anymore and the other aucas might actually kill her and the family... Well, I think, deep in every person, there is this conscience, and there is love and the need to be loved...

'I am your friend, your true friend...' were the last words of Jim Elliot to the aucas...

As a child, at a young age, having to know that your father is going on a mission trip and might never return. The first question would be 'why must you go?' and 'Do you love the aucas more than you loved me?'... Probably not, it was the love that Jim had for the Lord and also obedience... I don't think it was easy for any of the five missionaries to leave their family and obey the Lord's call to mission work... But, their love for the Lord enable them to do so...

and for Jim Elliot's son -having need to go back into the same forest again to share the love of Christ with the same people whom killed your dad...

But, it is really amazing when the Lord works. The changes that can be done....And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity. http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Colossians%203:14&version=NIV

Melancholic- Phlegmatic

Assignments... A major challenge to put 'the end' on the assignments...